Sometimes I look forward to the weekends when nanny goes home. Those weekends are generally more difficult ones for me to get through, but I use these experiences to gauge my capabilities as a sole caregiver to both of my sons (as is the case when it is a school night/day for my husband). I hope by documenting my experiences during these weekends will help me see any improvements. On this weekend, Max just turned 4 months old.
For those that are not famililar with Chinese nannies, the way it works is they stay with the family 24 hrs a day and only goes home two days out of two weeks period. Last weekend was nanny’s weekend off. She left right after dinner on Friday 8/26th, and came back Sunday 9/28th around the same time. As usually, my mother-in-law (MIL) was able to come and help us while my parents take off for the weekend.
Ever since one weekend when Max screamed his lungs out while my MIL was with him, she now refuse to take care of him longer than a few hours at a stretch. I was lucky enough to get her to watch him till 11PM on Friday night while I went to sleep an hour or so early. Once she handed Max back to me, Max was able to sleep one 2 hour stretch and woke for a feeding. Afterwards, I was able to put him back down to bed after ten minutes of rocking. From that point on, he woke nearly every hour and I got up to feed and/or rock him until he fell back asleep. By 6:30AM, he refused to be put down to bed, so I held him to sleep in the rocking chair till he woke up at 9AM in the morning. During the day, he took two naps, 1.5 hours and 1 hour respectively, both time he refused to be put down to bed so I held him through out his naps.
Saturday was pretty much repeat of Friday night, with exception of MIL handed Max back to me around 12AM. During the day on Sunday, I was able to put Max down twice, but each time, he only slept 20 minutes and 5 minutes till he started screamin again. However, whenever Max is awake, he’s a lot of fun to play with. He giggles and smiles, facinated with toys and sounds.
It makes me wonder why Max wakes so often with me when nanny tells me that he wakes only once in two to three hours with her. Mario suggested that it may be because he’s not used to sleeping with me, and it would get better the more I sleep with him. Unfortunately, I don’t think I can take care of Max every night if he sleeps as badly as he did this weekend. My brain will simply cease to function with so little sleep. Also, taking care of Max is a full time job. It would be very difficult for me to take care of Ravi at the same time. So minimum of two pairs of hands are still needed in this household.
Unfortunately, I got to admit that I am not ready yet to take over Max from nanny. But time is on my side. The older he becomes the better he will sleep, than night time will not be such a big issue. I wonder how he would be like in two weeks.