Another two weeks came and gone in a flash. When I blinked again, it was time to send nanny home for her weekend off. I drove her home little after lunch on Friday 9/23rd and picked her up on Sunday 9/25th. On this particular weekend, Mario was able to stay home and my mother-in-law (MIL) also came over to help us out. Max was little over five months old at this time.
Mario and MIL took care of Ravi while I mostly took care of Max. During the day, Max was absolutely wonderful. He loved to roll around on the floor, enjoyed his tummy time, and was facinated by everything Ravi did. Nap was a different problem. Max had a hard time napping for longer than 15 minutes under my care. When I sense the first signs of tiredness, I would take him down to his room and attempt to rock him to sleep. I would hold him till he falls asleep, then put him down onto his bed. On the first afternoon, all four of my consecutive attempts to put him down failed, resulted in Max opening up his eyes the second his head touched the bed. At the end I gave up and took him back to the living room to play. Then I remembered that nanny told me a little trick to check if he is in deep sleep simply by shaking my elbow where his little head is resting. If he is oblivious to the shake, then it is safe to put him down. So on the second day, I set a rule for myself that I would at least rock him for 15 minutes from the point when he closed his eyes before I check if he is in deep sleep. If he is disturbed, then I would begin another cycle of rocking for 15 minutes and try again. This time I had better luck in putting him down, but he would suddenly awake in 5 minutes, sometimes in 15 minutes. Then I would start the process all over again. This means for the duration of his nap, I would not be able to step away to do anything else.
During the night, Max fell asleep much easily. But unlike previous weekends when he woke periodically every two hours, this time he stired often and sporadically. Sometimes he would sleep for twenty minutes, sometimes an hour, and very rare occasion even an hour and a half. This time, I tried to breastfeed him in bed first instead of getting up to feed or rock him. At the end, it worked relatively well. I only got up twice the entire night.
Somehow, Max’s sleep has gone worst compared to previous weekends. He is also older at five months of age. Ravi, the bad sleeper, at five months were able to sleep solid three to four hour stretches. The difference betweent he two are Ravi was fed formula at night and went to day care at four months of age. Though we did give Max solids at night, but it doesn’t seem to make a difference. I always suspected that his stires were not caused by hunger but his lack of ability to transition from deep sleep to active sleep.
I am very concern about this weekend’s results. This is because Mario and I have finally decided to send Max to day care on October 10th. So this is the last two weeks that we will have nanny’s help. With Mario having an exceptionally busy schedule this quarter and Max being such a bad sleeper, I often wonder if I can take care of both my kids myself and still survive a demanding work day. Of course I will have some help from my MIL and my parents, but how much and for how long? The truth is, right now, I can’t comfortably handle two of them them at the same time. But I believe with time I will. In the meantime, I will have to work extra hard to get through. Day care will be absolutely wonderful experience for Max. He would be stimulated and taught the right habits to sleep. This will also help his nightime sleep as well. I hope the day will come when I can handle two of them with ease.